There’s a lot of dialogue going on right now about how women are perceived and treated in our society. This is a good conversation to have. Some pointers to keep in mind when entering into one of these convos:
1. If you aren’t a woman, then you don’t get to tell other people — other women especially — about how women should or shouldn’t experience the world. Full stop.
2. Re-read #1.
3. If your arguments against feminism are based on some form of “but a lot of feminists hate men”, then you aren’t arguing against feminism, you’re arguing against a minority group of its adherents. Don’t do that.
4. If your arguments against feminism are based on some form of “but men get the shit end of the stick on issues like child custody”, please realize that this issue is ROOTED in archaic gender roles and inequality. And take a moment to understand that for every case of a man being denied deserved rights to child custody in favor of an undeserving mother, there are countless cases of mothers and children being abandoned by their fathers. Keep some perspective.
5. Male privilege is a thing. Anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something… most likely a book on PUA. Before you let fly with that rant about how rape culture isn’t really a thing, or how women are just too emotional, or how women should just grow a thicker skin, stop. That’s your male privilege speaking and it doesn’t have anything intelligent or useful to say.
6. Gender inequality hurts boys and men, too. Emotionally, mentally, socially, and in some cases physically. Feminism benefits everyone. If you don’t like the word “feminism” or if you have too many negative connotations attached to that word, feel free to replace it with “gender equality movement” because that’s what it is.
7. Let’s listen to what women are saying. If you’re a women, please share your experiences, even if it’s just with one other person you trust. It may seem like the world doesn’t care, but there are lots of us who are listening, who’ve got your back, and who will take advantage of our own privilege to champion you to the best of our ability.
Daniel Wolfsong, HumanRising.com (via amanda-oaks)